Loyalty, Betrayal & Cooperation · Relationships & Character

Please free yourself from personal loyalty:

Many once told me, “Personal loyalty comes first.” I asked what it meant. They said valuing affection and loyalty. I said these are appearances: personal loyalty divides into “small affections and loyalties” and “the greater righteousness of the whole.”

Ordinary people are trapped by personal loyalty. Great achievers transcend “small affections and loyalties” to see “the whole and all beings,” growing a “compassionate heart”: if I do not shoulder this, who will? If I do not enter hell, who will? Free of emotions and desires, they plead for all beings.

A person is a ball on a slope. Uphill lies gratitude, downhill complaint, and the ball cannot remain neutral: either deliberately enter gratitude or unintentionally enter complaint. Negative energy is seven times positive energy. It is not burning bridges or lacking gratitude, but failing to discover deliberately and forgetting inadvertently. Gratitude deliberately discovers how good you are; complaint inadvertently gets used to receiving.

Revere those who stand firm! If you are clear, the world is clean;

If you are simple, the world can hardly become complicated.

If you do not half-resist and half-comply, the world will not become half-black and half-white for you. Some boundaries must be upheld.

The more ground you lose on principles, the more your life falls into ruin.

Life’s greatest change is not the dream you possess, but holding to your decision whatever happens;

Life’s greatest strength is not being encouraged by happiness, but still finding enjoyment while enduring the utmost pain;

Life’s most moving thing is not others’ selfless help, but their sharing life, honor, and disgrace with you while the future’s fortune and success remain unknown;

Life’s greatest thing is not brilliant results, but beginning a pioneering undertaking others consider impossible.

* Greed, anger, delusion, hatred, love, aversion, desire: if you wish to control someone, control what they desire

Do not trouble yourself over other people’s faults. Thank those who betray you; thank those who help you grow. Learn to forgive, to be tolerant, and to let life continually restore itself.

Those who accomplish great undertakings encounter people who “betray” them along the way. You need not become entangled; simply draw lessons about human nature.

Human nature has three needs

First, the need for money

Second, the need for a future

Third, the need for a spiritual world

1. Use distribution to meet people’s need for money

2. Use a great strategic vision and employee advancement to meet people’s need for a future

3. Use a sense of the sacred to meet people’s need for a spiritual world

Standing in the same “position” makes you “one group”; without the same “position,” you are not “one group.”

Those who accomplish great things must free themselves from “personal loyalty,” master “human nature,” grow a compassionate heart, and plead for all beings: if I do not shoulder this, who will? Wholeheartedly help subordinates succeed. However many betrayals, however many times you are shattered, keep this heart unchanged and carry on for twenty years, and you will surely accomplish a great undertaking under heaven.

When your tears run dry, your heart becomes strong.

Life is a process of continually breaking and continually recovering!

Thank those who betray you, because they help you stand more steadily.

Thank those who betray you, because they clear your eyes.

Thank those who betray you, because they help you distinguish day from night.

View this world with a pure heart, and you will surely reap a pure life.

Those who accomplish great things encounter betrayal along the way. The larger the undertaking, the more people betray you; more betrayers signify a larger undertaking.

Those who accomplish great things must withstand blows, betrayal, and great storms. Only then can they possess the success available to a few.

Why say those who accomplish great things encounter betrayal? Because the larger your undertaking, the more people it involves and affects. As the saying goes, “A big forest has every kind of bird.” Not everyone can help you, advise you, or lend you a hand. Learn to see through the ordinary conditions of human life, and face everything—including betrayal—with an even heart.

Life is a process of breaking and restoring. Forgive those who betray you: the greatest beneficiary is actually yourself. The more you keep score, the more you lose; the more you worry about, the more you drop. Look at this world and everyone around you with a grateful heart.

When a woman’s heart forms the intention to help a man succeed, the man’s heart is instantly won over

When a boss’s heart forms the intention to help employees succeed, employees are immediately won over

Businesses introduce marketing, management, forms… These are appearances. Those who play with blades will die by them. The core behind marketing and management is “the first stirring of intention.”

Form the wholehearted intention to deliver employees, and employees are instantly won over;

Form the wholehearted intention to help customers, and customers are instantly won over;

Form the wholehearted intention to free the boss, and the boss is instantly won over;

As long as the first stirring of intention is pure and compassionate, all beings are instantly won over.

Wholeheartedly deliver others, and they deliver you in return

Wholeheartedly love others, and they love you in return

Please stay away from Western teachings of women’s success. Hidden in major direct-selling businesses, they invade China’s five-thousand-year culture of women’s wisdom like a poisonous current.

A girl is simple, real, and above the mundane, finding joy in helping people. After marriage, she centers her husband, encouraging, caring for, and nourishing him, proud of him and admiring him immensely, happy every day.

One day she happens to encounter direct selling and receives many ideas:

“Women must have their own dreams”

“Women should not center their husbands”

“Women without independence have no status”

“Women without independence are bullied by their in-laws”

“Women must build their own independent world”

“Women must build a career”

“Women should live proudly”

“Women should learn to invest in themselves”

“Conviction first, family second, career third”

Please note: what does conviction first mean? Is it not merely a clever way of saying career first?

In other words, career-family-career silently dilutes the word family…

These ideas overturn her former values and become conviction and faith.

From then on she changes, emphasizing appearance and dress, with somewhat heavy makeup, false smiles, and purposeful enthusiasm. Familiar or stranger, everyone is “darling” or “dear.” Formerly she continually gave gifts to those nearby; now she frantically seeks ways to sell them products. Formerly she honored elders; now she complains and finds fault with them. Formerly calls and texts cared for her husband; now there is not one text in two months. Formerly she centered him; now his excellence makes her uncomfortable and jealous. Formerly she admired her husband; now she worships career beliefs. Formerly a woman’s infidelity was unforgivable; now it has reasons and her conscience is calm. Formerly above the mundane, now vulgar rouge and powder reeking of money, single-mindedly pursuing an illusory particular car or glory.

Three years later, she asks her husband for divorce, demanding the new house he borrowed money to buy at her urging, the car he bought, the garage, and IOUs for hundreds of thousands. She also takes the Sanya retirement house he gave his parents, leaving only their small home, a car an employee gave him whose title cannot be transferred, and nearly a million in debt.

Through all this, the child suffers. Is this not destruction for the next generation and several generations after?

However successful such a woman becomes, will she be happy?

According to statistics, divorce rates among China’s direct-selling workers currently rank among the highest, reaching 67% for female direct-selling workers. In other words, few women in direct selling do not divorce. The source of all this is legitimate products wearing the guise of pyramid selling, whose creed is targets and personal success.

“Women’s success teachings” are not bad in themselves, but excessively pursue personal success and targets;

“Women’s wisdom” pursues overall harmony among those nearby: while independent, women nourish children, partners, parents, family, friends, and society, not fixating on “targets” but realizing fundamental “purpose.”

Women deserve the greatest respect! Men are “yang,” the spirit embracing mountains and rivers; women are “yin,” the spirit nourishing all things.

Learning and growth are important

Learning the right things is more important

I strongly recommend the women’s cultivation course Traditional Chinese Culture

Chinese women, keep going!

Keep going for the future of the next generation and generations after!

Giving money is the lesser strategy, giving ability the middle strategy, giving ideas the highest strategy

**Success itself cannot be copied, but its underlying logic is shared**

Western thinking:

Women build careers not for money but for dignity;

Women must be independent; women must not depend on their men;

Husbands cannot be relied on; women must have a world of their own;

Women must blossom, love themselves, realize dreams, prove their value, and spend money dressing themselves up… etc. (money, distrust, selfishness, desire, competitiveness, outward beauty)

Chinese thinking: woman is “earth.” A woman’s greatness lies in how many people she nourishes: children (Mencius’s mother), her husband (Soong Ching-ling: “A woman’s greatest undertaking is igniting her man and nourishing him into an unrivaled hero and a model for the children”), and elders. ~Earth gives birth to all things.

Western success teachings have poisoned the wise Chinese “woman” into a selfish “female,” to save five thousand years of Chinese women’s wisdom

Personal loyalty needs the support of principles; cooperation needs goals, rules, and review.

Facing betrayal, first protect your boundaries, then review the mechanisms, and finally decide whether to continue cooperating.